With friends and family over the holidays, unhealthy relationships brimming with co-dependence are likely. Thought a quick tutorial of co-dependent basics might be helpful.
One person saw it so clearly, “If I’m happy, they’re happy. If I’m sad, they’re sad. If I’m angry, they’re angry. It’s like I have a shadow.”
Co-dependence is draining when it’s negative; we are left feeling powerless and defeated. When it’s positive, however, it is energizing; we are left feeling significant and valued.
It’s common. It doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. See the pattern. Do something different.
It’s great to have someone to turn to for support and know we can survive if they don’t have it to give.